I have heard many words of wisdom in my 30 years of life but in the past few years (especially since I have become a Mom) one has rang true… “If you can’t find any good in the world… BE the good in this world!”. Those words were spoken by a man that MANY of us look up to (particularly hubby and I), Trey Morgan. This has really struck a cord with me because so many times people will do lots of complaining about the world we live in today… “It’s going to the dogs” “There is NO good” “There is no hope”. For a young mother of two these words are very disheartening and saddening for my future and especially the future of my children!
So what in the world can little ol Candace Jae do in Fritch, TX? I’m not anything special. Just a girl that fell in love with a boy, got married, had kids and living the American dream…there’s not really anything you and I can do unless you are super smart or President, Right?…WRONG!!! There are so many small things that you can do that adds up to make a difference in this world. I would like to share with you a story from this past Friday.
I told Tyler that we needed to do something special with the kids so we decided to spend some time together in Amarillo. We wanted to treat our kids to happy meals at McDonald’s and a movie! So as many of you know my kids (and I am sure other kids you know) do not sit still for long. They like to move around, talk loudly, be silly…you know, what a 2 and 4 year old would do. Which I am fine with as long as it’s controlled chaos (“Controlled” this will be the theme of the blog). I by no means have all the answers when it comes to parenting but I do know that I put God first and try to base every decision I make on what God would want me to do in every situation. So, we are sitting with our kids and they are standing in their seats at this point while eating their meal and having a very rambly convo with one another, they are getting on the brink of loud but I have seen WAY worse from then and as long as they are in their seats and not running around Tyler and I feel we have done our job:) I had noticed across the way from us were 4 elderly ladies sitting around having coffee (Brooklyn and I had actually greeted them as we passed by their table before we sat down). After a while I got on the phone with my sister before we wrapped up our meal when not two minutes later I hear one of those elderly ladies yelling at me. “Hey! Excuse me! Can you control your kids?’ ( See…told you “control” would be a key word here) I honestly thought she was joking at first but when I saw her face and the other ladies I knew she was not joking! She continued “how about you get off your phone and take are of your kids lady! Geez!” To that I had a calm come over me (aka. God.) and all I could say was “Wow.” I calmly told Tyler and the kiddos that we needed to go ahead and go to the movie. The ladies kept muttering something as we exited the McDonald’s. At this point I was FURIOUS, as was my hubby that REALLY wanted to lay into those ladies. All I wanted was to go back inside and give those ladies a piece of my mind. How dare you speak to a someone like that? What gives you the right? How did you think at noon on a friday at MCDONALDS were you gonna have a quiet cup of coffee?
I have to admit that I wanted to say so many things to those ladies. But I asked myself a few questions, Would it matter? Would it bring glory to God? Would it set a good example for my kids? Would Jesus be proud? I answered all these with a resounding No! Would it have given me an amount of gratification to spill my guts to them? Maybe, for a minute or two but then I would have felt bad stooping to their level in doing exactly what I wouldn’t want to do and WOULD regret later! The thing that hurt the worst was her comment about taking care of my kids. That stung. I’m not gonna lie. I cried and cried over it because since I have been a Mother I have spent time, energy, money, prayer into trying my best to mold them into great kids and eventually amazing Christians I know God has set out for them to be. I know she didn’t know me and it should not have mattered but that’s just how I am hard wired, emotional, worrisome and care too much about what people think of me. (That’s right…even strangers!)
I have since prayed a lot about it and evaluated the situation, I feel that we did do the right thing. I was in “Control” (contrary to what the lady yelling at me felt) of the situation. The difference between my family and those ladies was I had God on my side. I feel God gave me the strength to walk away from the situation and upon reflection realize it took more courage and strength to do what we did rather than what those ladies did. Was it MY strength? Nope. God gave me all the strength and control in my life to give him the glory in all we do.
I write this article as a call to EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD… be an encourager, an optimist, a good person, hard working, helpful, a Christian! I feel it’s so easy to be mean, rude, hateful, cheeky but it takes tremendous strength to be the GOOD in this world. Jesus was and still is the GOOD in this world. “Every good and perfect gift is from above…” James 1:17… This is so true, Anything you do or have that is good and wonderful is a blessing from God. If we sing his praises, pray, do good, be good, be happy, joyous, loving, kind… Man o Man would it not be a glorious place?
I hope that this blog encourages you to be a little more patient, understanding, loving, kind. The next time you come up against something that is stressful, angers you, tests your patience… I encourage to pray and seek God in that moment and he will truly bless you. See the good, be the Good and remember if you cannot find any good in this world …BE THE GOOD IN THIS WORLD!